Unity in diversity - Does that hold good always?

Unity in diversity - one of the popular quotes of Indian patriotism. It is evolved from the harmonious co-existence of different religions, casts, languages and customs within same one country.

Well, is this applicable for the small units constituting the community or on bigger scale the country called 'Family'. In ideal paradigm - yes it will be. Family is composed of Husband and wife and children. Husband can be from a specific culture, specific religion or cast or a health condition, whereas wife can be from an entirely different culture, religion, cast or health condition. Children can be mix of the both these culture ideally ( In my honest opinion in fact for a healthier family eco-system the equal mix or right mix is necessary). This eco-system will sustain when each part of this eco-system honor or experience or understands or mingle the others' culture, values, taste and habits.

If one is side-lined based on their specifics where others are keeping a gap or void will create feelings of isolation, loss of identity or inferiority. If the minority is sidelined by majority, then the result would be more disastrous. Among those minority, someone may be able to sail through or recover, some one will collapse!.

The bigger dilemma

Human behavior is to be happy (at least internally) when one is recognized or heard. That gives him/her a good outline of how other human beings are seeing him. This theory holds good for one's closed circle of fellow human beings. They could your close relatives , close friends, lover etc. 

If one see that within his close circle of fellow human beings, conflicting signs - someone hear or recognize you whereas some one rejects or not hear you, that will put him into dilemma on the outline he gets on himself. it will be a terrible situation for one who wants to be a perfectionist. 

In most of the situations, this situation is overcome by choosing one side. It could be the acceptance of response from reject/not hearing fellow humans or response form recognize/hearing fellow humans and that too most of the time from the later.

If one wants to be perfectionist and also a person who convinces and go , the above explained situation will be a hell for him. Some of them finally overcomes, some collapse and recover, some will fail terribly in all sense.

Discrimination or not?

I often wondered how Non Resident Indians (NRIs) are given many facilities in India .Some of the good examples are - NRI Account , NRI Quota for Professional Education etc. As far as I understood ( At this point , let me be very clear that , this is my own observation , which may be incorrect ) NRIs bring in the foreign currency or in general money to our Country. They are the backbone of the Financial system in this country.

I keep on thinking on this again and again. If NRIs bring (send) money to banks of our country, this money can be used in the market for business. But this leaves a question- How the earning Indian is different from an NRI. He/she also earns and deposit his earnings in bank. But former enjoys a better interest rate, an account where source of money need not be disclosed.

Consider the case - an NRI who earns less than that of a Professional who works in India , the later pays a flat income tax of 30% to Indian Govt. (I am not denying that the NRI pays tax to foreign Govt) . But from the Govt side , the later contributes better to the countries growth.
At the same time, he does not have the benefit of higher interest rate accounts, nor any quotas, nor any Open forum for protecting rights ( remember the recent job cut in gulf countries) etc.

Not sure whether this is discrimination or not!

LOC - Love of Cinema

I am a person who enjoy serious moives as well as comedy movies.By Serious movie I did not mean the art films, which I found difficulty in understanding.There are some exceptions like 'Oridathu' by Aravindan. But movies like 'Elipathayam' and 'Kaanchanaseetha' etc, I could not digest even a bit.

Some of the movies with Serious themes which I liked most are 'Koodevide' , 'Innale' by great writer - director 'Padmarajan' and 'Kathodu Kathoram' by 'Bharathan'.

A movie-which was flagged as a comedy , but really discuss a serious theme is 'Vadakku nokki yantram' by Srinivasan.The character 'Thalathil Dineshan' was a good portrait of a middle class man of the present time. I think we have some part of 'Thalathil Dineshan' in all of us in one or in the other form. Srinivasan in this movie correctly outline the very human behavior - doubting others, the impact in family life and the causes.

Another movie which I enjoyed is Ramjirao Speaking , a pure comedy with innocent comedy expressions from the great comedian 'Innocent'. Even after repeated watching of the movie , I did not get boring feeling!. 

Relationships

I feel that the most lasting real relationship is between Parent and Child. To be precise, relationship between parent and Kid in his/her childhood only. For me all other relationships turned out to be existing for some specific objectives. Some of these objectives could evolved from selfishness.For example , some people brush-up the cold relationship , for their own advantages like to get some information / to pass some message to some other etc etc...

Relationship between Parent and Kid is evolved from pure love. I really enjoy spending time with my daughter, she often tells ( mostly without any specific reason) that she loves me a lot...

When she wakes up from sleep, first she calls 'Daddy...'.If somebody goes to her bed, she will turn from jovial mood except myself.

But having jovial relationships with others will be ideal situation for me, as it gives a great sense of Security / Dependence / Consolation. But everybody should then follow this , otherwise it will be a nice dream of myself only....

Thought of the day

Imagine the situation :

You are insisting/advising on some condition to someone. Despite your insistence , you see that its overruled.[ Forgive me If I am too philosophical / hypothetical ] . Later you see that your advise is taken by that someone, but not taken as your words , but their own decision.What would be your reaction?. ....

I remember a scene from Movie 'KalyanaRaman'. Scene - Ponnikara (Innocent) is serving the food in the Marriage party of Jyothirmayi . To an Old man , innocent politely ask , whether he wants to have some more rice. Subsequently Innocent make repeated requests , but the old man does not say yes..Innocent moves to next person in the row for serving . That time this old man calls from the back and say he wants more rice.. Innocent gets angry and say "ഈഇ നായിണ്ടേ മോനോട് നൂറു തവണ പറഞ്ഞതാ വേണോ വേണോ എന്ന് ....."

I also felt the same feeling in my mind.. But unfortunately that somebody was some one very close to you!!!

ടാറ്റാ ടീ പരസ്യം കണ്ടിട്ടുണ്ടോ?. വോട്ട് ചെയയു!!, രാക്ഷ്ട്രതോടുള്ള കടമ നിര്‍വഹിക്കു!!.

ഞങ്ങളുടെ ഓഫീസില്‍ ഒരു പറ്റം സഹപ്രവര്‍ത്തകര്‍ കൂടി , ഈ കാമ്പൈന്‍ ഏറ്റു പിടിച്ചു. വോട്ടെര്‍ ലിസ്റ്റ് ഉണ്ടാക്കലായി , ഫോളോ-അപ്പ്‌ sessions ആയി , പിന്നെ എന്തെല്ലാമോ കാട്ടി കൂടി ഇവര്‍!!

ഞാന്‍ ഈയിടെ ഓഫീസിലേക്ക് വരുമ്പോള്‍ ഒരു കാഴ്ച കണ്ടു , സഹപ്രവര്‍ത്തകരില്‍ ചിലര്‍ ട്രാഫിക് നിയമങ്ങള്‍ കാറില്‍ പരത്തി ഡ്രൈവ് ചെയ്യുന്നു. ഹൈദരാബാദില്‍ ഇതൊരു പുതുമയല്ല. എല്ലാവര്ക്കും അവരുടെ സ്വന്തം നിയമങ്ങള്‍. റൈറ്റ് ലൈനില്‍ സ്ലോ ആയി പോകും, ലെഫ്റ്റ് ലൈനില്‍ കൂടി ഓവറ്ടകെ ചെയ്യും, വണഉ വേ യിലുടെ തെറ്റായ ദ്യെരച്റേന്‍ ഓടിച്ചു വരും ( ഹെഡ് ലൈറ്റ് എല്ലാം ഇഇടു , അവരുടെ ആര്‍ക്കോ വായു ഗുളിക വെടിക്കുവാന്‍ പോകുന്നത് പോലെ ) .

ഞാന്‍ പറയുന്നതു , ഇത്തരം ഷോ പിസേസ് ആള്‍കാര്‍ രാഷ്ട്ര നിയമങ്ങളില്‍ അറ്റ്ലീസ്റ്റ് മാതൃക കാണിക്കണം . അല്ലെങ്ങില്‍ നെക്സ്റ്റ് ടൈം അവര്‍ വിളമ്പുന്നത് അവരുടെ മുന്‍പില്‍ കാര്കിച്ചു തുപ്പും.

ഞാന്‍ ഇതു എന്റെ ഫ്രുസ്ട്രെഷോണ്‍ കൊണ്ടെഴുതിയതാണ്. കൂടുതുല്‍ എഴുതുന്നയിരിക്കും.ഓര്‍മ്മകള്‍ ഉണ്ടായിരിക്കണം